“There’s no better way to overpower a trickle of doubt than with a flood of naked truth”

I do not believe in contextual insinuations but I always tick the scale in favour of the context of the content of the text. – G.D Damabel.

“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered 1 Peter 3:7.

This notion is from the bible so is more ideal we examine it based on the context of the text where it’s believed to have been taken from.
Scriptures where vessels are mentioned refers contextually to the body, a covering or just a utensil.

What does it mean a weaker vessel?. Many interpret this to mean something weak, easily deceived, easily beguiled or something that cannot absorb nor cope with much stress. Weaker vessel have no direct implication to the content of the vessel(The woman’s ability) but a suggestion that the covering of the content of the vessel(the body) is delicate and should therefore be handled with care others suggested.

Women have been observed to be more emotional than men. And I believe, the more emotional you are the weaker you will likely become. Emotions exist in the soul realm, and all humans are emotional being because we have a soul. Love is not emotion but comes with emotion, and women on the average tends to love more with emotion than men. When emotions are not guided and well-managed it can make one to be weak.

I believe women are more emotional not because they are weak but the anticipation and sometimes the unconscious anxieties that the serpent who discredited them before God and man is still in their garden.

I do hold that, a woman’s earnest desire for perfection and to remain chaste is the greatest contributing factor of her being emotional.

Most women sees the clause statement “A weaker vessel” to be very annoying and a form of religious discrimination but I see it as a call for men to deal kindly with their wives. I believe the context of that verse was not intended to define fully the nature of a woman or does it expressly portray men as the stronger vessel in any ramification.

After all Jesus said the other day “the flesh is weak but the spirit is willing” referring to male disciples.

The intent of that chapter was to foster good relationship in the home not a tool for exploitation. Isolating a word from a chapter is dangerous in most circumstances and anyone who is campaigning that a woman is equal to a man need to also re-evaluate his/her sense of humour. 

A man and a woman is like positive and negative, indeed they are not the same nor equal because they have different role but same purpose to produce light and that light gives life and this is the original intent.

Trying to equate positive to negative is futile and unnecessary, I suggest such energy should be put into ensuring that both positive and negative fulfil their inbuilt potentials.

“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered 1 Peter 3:7.

This scripture was a comparison of a woman’s position in a marriage union and her position in Christ not her nature. In marriage she is made a little less than the husband in authority but they are both equal (joint heirs) in Christ. Peter was simply adjoining men not to mistreat their wife because they are the head of the home but to deal kindly with them.

In the physical realm God had expressed a distinction based on sex but in the spiritual domain such distinction is absent.

“There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ” Gal 3: 28.

This scripture sees God of not been a racist or a sexist for the benefit of doubts. This means women and men are equally free to pursue their dreams and aspiration and most importantly to fulfill their purpose on earth without any form of restrain or discrimination. For more on how to fulfill your purpose click here.


No one should be discriminated based on age, gender or religious orientation. I also condemn in a very strong term every act or activity that threatens peaceful coexistence and does not encourage family values.
A woman had already gotten a place of dignity, beauty and glory and a man should honour her in this respect.  A call for gender equality is dead on arrival. We should be more concerned about orientation and quality unbiased education for all.

Let’s encourage family values like honour, duty, discipline, faithfulness, patience, sacrifice, service and above all love and respect. This is the solution to crises in various homes not arming someone to be fluent in court or to be eloquent in carrying out some hidden and sacrilegious agenda .

Jesus said the other day, give to Cesar what belongs to Cesar or do as the law says regarding tax. We can only give to Cesar what does not violate our religious principles especially these days that Cesar is ever ready to overstep it’s bounds. Yes all human are equal and free but that equality and freedom must be guided for greater good.


“For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh Gen 2:24.

For what cause? A man must understand this cause, and clearly communicate it to the woman before the I do slogan.
In the beginning the man and woman shared equal role in the family (i.e each can take decision(s) independently of another not necessarily because they were equal but because they were perfect). When the woman was deceived, she influenced the husband to follow the quest of attaining a position beyond their ordination. A quest you can only reach by disobedience.

I see God redefining the family system so as not to allow the women to be so independent as to take some decisions by herself. It was therefore imposed on her to humble herself what she would have done willingly by consulting Adam for his approval or the very least his consent of whether to eat or not to eat the fruit of the tree. And God said

“..and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee” Gen 3:16b.

Some of my fathers believe that this was a punishment for her disobedience but in my opinion pain in child-birth was the  punishment, the wife attaining a lesser position was an executive decision by heaven in the spirit of greater good for the future.

“For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior Ephesians 5:23.

The scripture above is for husband and wife not man and a woman in work place. May I also submit, a wife trying to be equal or above the husband is like the church trying to be equal or above Christ. The scripture above rules you out-of-order. A woman should understand her role and purpose that is what makes her the desired woman. The relationship between the husband and the wife is like that between Christ and the church.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her  to sanctify her, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to Himself as a glorious church, without stain or wrinkle any such blemish, but holy and blameless Ephesians 5:25-27.

Christ will not ridicule the church or turn it into a punching bag because of flaws but rather makes her whole and blameless. How? is “by the washing with water through the word”.  What does this really mean?.

What if her family role conflicts with her ambition and divine purpose, what then is the right thing to do?.
What is the woman’s role and what is her purpose?

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